I am not a parent expert or a kids expert, but I definitely can credit myself with being very observational and being able to think critically.
So many parents and guardians have dropped the ball when it comes to their children in some of the most crucial stages in life. Firstly, raising children is far from an easy fleet, you can get so easily flustered, frustrated and drained! Children require so much constant love, care and attention… oh and affection too! Children are like your precious jewelry they need to be loved and admired the way you would that jewelry.
But let us not hide the fact, kids can easily and quickly become a pain in the der·ri·ère! Yes, they have no filter, no chill and are very needy! Let us get it straight though, many of the things they learn in early life, are what we teach them and what we expose them to. Some good, Some bad and some unsupervised. Some parents have grace to deal with it and some don’t. My point is, when the bad comes around, as parents we should always be wary and careful of who we vent to and what we vent about our children!
Many of the things we share about our children can and have hurt our children. So often we put out this bad or negative energy in the world about our children and then it comes back to bite us and our children tenfold. Imagine, having a child who is struggling mentally , emotionally and socially. You as a parent lack awareness of how to deal with it, but you’re quick to discuss and lament about the child to almost any other adult, you may be setting up that child for a lifetime of problems without even knowing.
Having a child who is struggling in life, especially as an adolescents or adult, does not always mean they will amount to nothing. In these phases what a child need more than anything is GRACE and DIRECTION. Not a parent who gossips about them to others who may not have pure intentions towards the child.
Okay, so your adult child is struggling to make ends meet and make great decisions? Don’t forget that you were a big part of raising that child. I am not saying to keep the bad a secret, but going to almost anyone and “bad” talking the child is putting more bad in the universe against that child, so even when he/she tries to do good , it almost never works.
All I am saying is be careful what you put in the universe about your child/ren. The “no good boy/girl” , “the dumb kid” , “good for nothing” “have no sense” comments, may be hurting your child more than you think.
At the end of the day, the most overwhelming key to a child’s success is the positive involvement of parents. – Jane D. Hull
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